I short I need some Me time.

I will be back at it in the fall.

I hope to see you all then.

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This may have all begun with the creation of the trade secret concept. The idea that the way I do what I do is my little secret and if I share it with someone they will steal my method and take way my customers and money.

What they miss is the fact that when they begin to teach a select group of people they are creating a legacy that will remain long after they are gone. It is sad that with such an I centered culture the idea of legacy is becoming something of the past.

I know that when I get up in the morning I hope and pray that today will be the day that a teacher will immerge from crowd of people that have gone before me.

Will today be the day?

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Seth Godin says that this is my lizard brain acting up, I don’t really know what he is talking about but I do know it has a lot to do with self preservation. We make up rational or irrational excuses to give our selves ways out of doing what we know in our core we should be doing.

I say kill the lizard.

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I am working at some mine removal in my life, it seems that one little step will leave someone having years of bent up hurt and anger thrown at them for no apparent reason.

I am realizing more and more that when some unsuspecting person does some harmless act they may have just stepped on past hurt that has been lurking just under the surface.

Learning to control this out burst is sometimes hard to do. But communicating about how you feel and remembering that you love the person in front of you are oober important when your life is full of these mines.

Are you working at removing the mines in your life?

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The problem with focusing on the future and beating our selves up for not being there already is that we miss the moments that we have right now.

It is important to remember the future, but to use that as motivation to make the most out of every moment and opportunity that comes our way right now.

So stop missing out on what is right in front of you.

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When I take a step back from my life and try to look at the big picture I feel as though I am blindsided by a long list of things I am trying to do “better.”

I am trying to communicate better, learn how to process emotions faster, love more, let go of control in finances, trust God more, learn to see him as a father, forgive people in my life more readily and the list goes on.

All of these things are good, I just wish I could pick one and then work at it for a year, get really good at it and then start on the next one.

Unfortunately life doesn’t work this way, but it is good to write down all the things you are trying to remember to do and put them somewhere you can see them. This way you might remember to do more then just one a day.

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It seems that the church is always just behind the cultural norm. What happens is that culture changes to embrace some form of a new low, the church stands up and says no, at least for a time.

Then society moves on and embraces yet another new form of low, the church forgets about what it was saying no to originally as it raises to fight this new low, but meanwhile incorporating the last low they were trying to fight.

It defiantly leads me to some serious head shaking as I watch this cycle repeat it self and the great minds of our church walk about oblivious and to afraid for there jobs to take a real stand and say enough is enough.

In many ways the church is perpetuating the decay of North American culture.

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This takes a lot of observation skills but with just a little practice anyone can get there.

Look and see what your partner is doing to care for you, try to be aware of the things they do, the way they interact with you. Then try and do similar things back.

Does your wife make you dinner, try doing that for her, does she like going for long walks, and picnics, try planning one these, and see what happens.
Does your man talk to you before he buys anything, does he like punctuality, does he always tell you how pretty you are. Begin to do these things with him.

When we start to mimic our partners behavior we are actually beginning to love and respect our significant other in the way that speaks to them.

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This is a concept that has required some discovery on my part.

Men tend to respect their wives or significant others, while women are more prone to Love their partners. The problem with this is that men have a need to be respected not loved, and if a woman had to choose, she would choose love instead of respect.

What happens in relationships is that we care for our partners in the way that we want to be cared for. And this often ends in a relationship where neither person is receiving what they need.

Are you caring for your partner in the way they need to be cared for, or in the way you would like them to care for you?

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The challenge comes in knowing when to do one or the other.

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