Dan Byl

It’s funny how we can grow accustomed to living a certain way and responding a certain way. When A happens, we do B, which almost always gives us C, which is a place that we often don’t like to be. Of course I am talking about negative responses to incidents that occur almost daily in our lives. So why do we continue to respond a certain way, a way that often leaves us unhappy and feeling down about our selves?

Perspective often plays a large part in this continual occurrence. If we can’t see how we respond; we can’t take responsibility for our response. We play it off as the other persons fault, we blame shift, we direct our anger outwards.

How do we begin to change this pattern? I believe it is by asking others what they saw happen, by allowing people in our lives to keep us accountable, even if it seems awkward. We need to add some perspective to our lives. We need to be able to step back and see the situation from the other side if we hope to begin to change our responses.

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