Dan Byl

Back to the idea of insight, where do you get your insight from? Who are you asking for advise and wisdom from? So I am going to share a few simple rules I follow trying to get insight and for finding people to glean wisdom from.

Rule 1, find people that are good in specific areas. For instance a good father, leader, business man, husband. Not many people are good at everything so go to specific people for specific issues. I got married and so I go to two individuals for advice on how to communicate and love my wife, both of these guys are married and have been for years, I don’t go to my single friends.

But I do go to my guy friends that are peers when I am trying to deal with some of my own personal issues, because they can relate and have slightly different views of similar issues.

Rule 2, they need to have a similar belief system as mine. They need to be following God and wanting to be good people. I don’t go to someone that thinks there is no god to help me with my life, why? Because God is a huge part of my life and to leave him out of the solution seems like a bad idea to me.

Rule 3, a mutual respect. I need the guys in my life that I go to, to be able to rebuke me, and be able to be willing to not push there ideas on me at the same time. Everything that people tell me I run through my filters and I apply to my life in a manner that will work for my personality and way of doing things. So if the man just wants to push his ideas down my throat the relationship wont work out.

Rule 4, I need to be able to have relationship with them out side of crises. We need to be able to just hang, play poker, or work together. We need to be able to get to know each other on a personal level before they can speak into my life. Just because you are in a place of authority dose not mean you have the right to speak in to my most personal issues. That permission needs to be earned and given.

Rule 5, there needs to always be more then one person. I will always go to more then one person when I am trying to figure things out or deal with things. More perspectives equal better chance of seeing all the angles.

Rule 6, I need to be going to God too.

Hope these are helpful, and remember take these and run them through your filter and apply what you can to yourself.

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