Dan Byl

I know that the last thing you want to do when writing a blog is take time off, but I need to spend some time refocusing my life, and the direction that it is going.

I short I need some Me time.

I will be back at it in the fall.

I hope to see you all then.

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When the student is ready the teacher will appear. No wonder this is an ancient Chinese proverb, it has almost no relevance to today’s world. People are so concerned with living the dream that they completely forget about those of us that are trying to make something of our selves in this world.

This may have all begun with the creation of the trade secret concept. The idea that the way I do what I do is my little secret and if I share it with someone they will steal my method and take way my customers and money.

What they miss is the fact that when they begin to teach a select group of people they are creating a legacy that will remain long after they are gone. It is sad that with such an I centered culture the idea of legacy is becoming something of the past.

I know that when I get up in the morning I hope and pray that today will be the day that a teacher will immerge from crowd of people that have gone before me.

Will today be the day?

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Do I step out? Should I begin to lead? Will people accept me? What if I screw up? What if I don’t know what to do or say?

Seth Godin says that this is my lizard brain acting up, I don’t really know what he is talking about but I do know it has a lot to do with self preservation. We make up rational or irrational excuses to give our selves ways out of doing what we know in our core we should be doing.

I say kill the lizard.

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I am not going to presume to know what it is like to step on a landmine, but I am sure that my wife feels like she is walking through a minefield some days.

I am working at some mine removal in my life, it seems that one little step will leave someone having years of bent up hurt and anger thrown at them for no apparent reason.

I am realizing more and more that when some unsuspecting person does some harmless act they may have just stepped on past hurt that has been lurking just under the surface.

Learning to control this out burst is sometimes hard to do. But communicating about how you feel and remembering that you love the person in front of you are oober important when your life is full of these mines.

Are you working at removing the mines in your life?

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It’s hard to live in the moment; I so often find myself thinking about the future and living everyday for the day that I will get to…

The problem with focusing on the future and beating our selves up for not being there already is that we miss the moments that we have right now.

It is important to remember the future, but to use that as motivation to make the most out of every moment and opportunity that comes our way right now.

So stop missing out on what is right in front of you.

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I don’t know if this is actually a problem but sometimes it feels like it is.

When I take a step back from my life and try to look at the big picture I feel as though I am blindsided by a long list of things I am trying to do “better.”

I am trying to communicate better, learn how to process emotions faster, love more, let go of control in finances, trust God more, learn to see him as a father, forgive people in my life more readily and the list goes on.

All of these things are good, I just wish I could pick one and then work at it for a year, get really good at it and then start on the next one.

Unfortunately life doesn’t work this way, but it is good to write down all the things you are trying to remember to do and put them somewhere you can see them. This way you might remember to do more then just one a day.

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